Life Does Have Answers

 For those of you that are willing to exept the truth there are answers.  The worst part of this vice is that it was a national television broadcast.  Telling everyone about the good life when you use this vice.

Our Grandfathers and Grandmothers, Aunts and Uncles, Cousins, Sisters and Brothers all believed because we were taught our vice from birth.  That we deserve all the gusto we can get so if we do this we will have it all.

So millions of people took action and started to learn.  How to use these vices whether you took them in by mouth as a fluid or toxic air.  I definitely tried them.

The first vice that took me over made me cough horribly but that did not stop me.  I just said it was my inexperience that caused me to cough and weeze that way.

It burned my eyes and made my clothes smell terrible.  This is legal and anyone can do it as long as they have the money.  Everyone was doing it so why shouldn't I do it too.

Those companies were so happy with all the millions of people using this new legal product.  One was not enough though everyone wanted a piece of this action.

Then I started to use both at the same time especially when I was with friends.  It was a great social activity and the liquid made you feel funny.

This funny liquid even made most people talk something most of them at a party would not due.  Make a very boring party exciting wouldn't you say so.

What is so bad about all these vices everyone said to themselves and other people.   Can you stop using these substances whenever you want too.  I don't know lets give it a try lets say two weeks.

Well look at that for some people it was not a problem at all for others it is a different story.   I can't stop and I don't want too stop anyway, OK.   Well this went on for some thirty odd years.

Some people got some weird diseases from using these vices but it did not say anything on the label.   People are dying from a disease called cancer.  

This was caused by inhaling the smoke from burning these leaves in paper. The other people that were drinking all these intoxicating fluids were getting heart attacks and liver trouble.

No one ever said that this was going to happen and kill loved ones, friends and neighbors.  What kind of picture did the companies selling these products paint for everyone. 

The companies paid for killing people and for people becoming addicted to these chemicals and fluids.   But not a soul can really blame anyone for these things happening to them.

They are of legal age but this is not the whole of the problem.  Not everyone trying these product were of legal age.  But how do you stop anyone from attaining these products.

Do you have any thoughts on this? 

Better Way Continues

The vice is you did you ever think of that way.  How do you want to continue on with your life.  You know that you have a choice and that you are the blame.  The time for denial is over its time to take action.

You must want to stop with all you heart deep down inside your soul.  Now tell yourself I no longer want to live like this I want a better life.  I will work hard and do whatever it takes to take control of my vice.  It has taken the things I love most in my life away from me.

I want my life back and I know someone cares.  I can send this vice away for good.  I truly believe and want everyone to believe in me.  Remember how long it took to get to where you are and that it does not happen over night.

Now that you have decided to take action realize that you will not be trusted over night.  What have you used to replace your vice?  Have you started to go to ball games, dancing, singing, playing an instrument, jogging, walking, telling jokes.

The feeling just gets weaker over time like an war wound, broken leg or maybe a car accident.  When we heal we will walk down memory lane but it will get easier for everyone.  The days go by and life starts to feel more full, dreams are colorful.

People once again remember your name.  We believe in something or someone that is more powerful than anything in the universe.  Somehow this planet and all the things on it were created for us to use and inhabit. How do you feel about yourself today?

What you are doing is coming back to reality.  The world that never stops turning and growing.  The people that love each other because they are human beings and this is how we were taught to live.  You are strong and have taken back life.

'LEARNING THE MECHANISM THAT MAKES OUR VICE GROW CAN BE THE ANSWER TO MAKING IT STOP AND GO AWAY.'

Life is much to short and as you age you realize how short it really is so use your life doing good things.   

Change For The Better

Who do you think you are?  I am you looking back at me in the mirror.  Day in and day out three hundred sixty five days of the year.  But do you know what I have that you do not have at this time.

Piece of Mind

 I have answered those questions that have haunted be to the point I could not sleep at night.  I can honestly say that I have made a change.  But I did have to give up something that was holding me down.  My vice had to stay in the box I put it in.  I could not wake up tommorrow or the next day or even the next  week and say I am cured forever.

Because that vice was waiting for me to fall.   Because no matter what name you call your vice, disease, illness, unconscious behavior it never goes away.  So if you think you can go for three months of six months and be done.  You are one mixed up fool.  My vice would not lay down ever though the years started to pass and I began to feel good about myself.  

What do you want? 

It has been seventeen years now and my family finally has started to talk to me again.  No matter what vice you have overcome and work on keeping in check everyday of your life.  The hurt that it inflicted on your family and friends will not stop.  Time passes and people begin to forget as the good you do replaces the bad.  

Do you say a prayer or thank a friend?  Do you tell a loved one I can not believe that you stayed with me.    Keeping a journal may seem like a silly thing to do.  But as you answer certain questions and you reach a new platoe in your lives you may start to forget things.   But you may just know someone else that has a vice similar to your vice.  

So,  you can reach back and tell them what not to do.   Maybe this person is not ready to know the truth but you can put him on the path to facing it himself.   They might just remember you one day when they see you on the street.   Some vices are not as bad as others do you believe such a thing.  Even though it may noyt be intoxicating it does not inflict the pain on other people.

But it does hurt them to see the way that you are because they love you.  Love can help but it can not cure especially for someone that does not have a problem.  So which one are you?  Hanging on the edge of the fence or always known?  Would not  get help!

There is no more time!   Either do something or let those un-fortunate ones go.  God did not give you the right to torture the ones you say you love.

Your vice is not curable  and you have known it for years.

Change is for the Better. 

Change For The Better Day Three

What I lived in now was denial for years claiming everyone else had the problem. No I did not drink all the pepsi and pass out on the floor. Everyone is different we all have our own level of tolerance. Remember fit your vice in place of mine. Yes, I did eat the whole large pizza by myself but I do not have a problem.

The reason I know that I am fine is because of what the doctor told me. He said if you are at least five foot and seven inches tall. It is just fine to weigh twoo hundred and thirty-eight pounds. What do you mean I am setting my own rules! You have got to be kidding I am going on my doctors advice for weight loss.

What people or things do you have as your support? There is a rate for us all mine was one minute at a time! It is very important that you listen to your innner self saying you are strong. You need to also listen to that outer support whether it be children, wife and family members.

We are going to glad at this point if anyone believes in us. Remember you have screwed it up so many times with all the bullshit excuses. The buck stops in your pocket no one elses. I do not know how long it will be before you can look in the mirror and see you. The person we once knew had been gone for a long time.

The yesterdays that use to be hours and days have turned into months and years. I have had a problem for a long time and we wish that we could wake up from this dream. I am feel ok today but it is a long time until I lay down for sleep. Thank my boss that I still have a job. I can not understand how I can go to work.

But my vice controls my life. This is the best time to get help. Don't fool your self that is what I thought I got rehabilitated and returned to work. I was sent to HR because they told me I needed to talk with some people about my return to the job. They fired me! Talk about being devasted I had to go home and tell my wife.

I did not know that I could have sought outside help. I was just beginning my path to recovery. I never told my wife what had happened until years after I was let go. I still remember HR telling me we know longer have a use for you. This is right after the company had been sited for bigotry.

Our company did not have one afro-american employee. But that instance passed and I moved on. The hardest part of our lives can be dealing with status quo. Everyone knows the rules and can either abide by them or work around them. It was very hard for me because I had changed careers and I only had three years of longevity.

Right now are you thinking that you fit it this crazy puzzle of life that I am weaving for you. That is because I am know different than you and maybe I am worse for the way my life had gone. So if you are somewhere in between the road to recovery might be a lot shorter. Always remember it is you and know one elses fault where you are in your life.

We all know right from wrong its just the direction we choose to go down the path of life. I had to learn other things did you know that people lose their jobs for being the wrong size. Did you know that people can lose their jobs from talking the wrong language or having the wrong kind of hair. This is the type of bunk and employer will make up to get rid of someone that does not fit.

I am sure that many of you might have heard this verbage. Yes you are the perfect fit for this job or I am sorry your skill set does not match the job description. The worst and most horrific statement is that you are more intelligent than your supervisor. There is no way that you will ever get that job. Just quoting some misrepresented people.

Stress is another good excuse. I just need to relax and if I just eat, drink, take one of these I will feel so much better for it. How addicted are you really? This can turn into life long misery for anyone. Have you ever heard of a hypochondriac? Do you have everything and anything that someone will feel sorry for you? Now that is a disease I am glad I do not have to deal with in my life.

Is anything I have said been of help to you?

Is so I will start out again tommorrow with a change for the better!

Tell me where you are and what you need to talk about?

Change For The Better Continued

Well I had hoped for a little more response.  Is anyone interested in changing or have you been there done that and nothing works for you so you give up.  What kind of attitude is that it sounds like me seventeen years ago.

That is just what I was saying no one cares about me and I can not change so I will continue doing what I do ruining other peoples lives because I am weak and have no will power.   

Sorry! That is right you must want to do something about a problem before it can be repaired to the best of your ability.  Anyway another part of this illness is health itself.  Do you take care of yourself and eat coarrectly and exercise.  

These are all tough parts of the well being of your life.  So lets do that get ourselves in tune with what we are about to take on for the sake of people we love.  So like I said earlier this is not a special treatment that you pay thousands of dollars. 

I could use the money.  Week one if you are not already doing it lets get a little more healthy.  We need to wake up each morning and hop in the shower or tub.  Moving on the the grooming department come our hair and brush our teeth.  

That is right start off on the right foot.  These are not hard things to do for some but for others it might take a miracle.  

I am not saying that you stink but you probably do so clean it up.    

Eating three meals a day or whatever you feel good about doing at this point.  Wow that is not what I meant at all do not fall back into that catagory of helplessness.  You are probably on the urge of having an attack.

Stopping in steps is good for some people.  The only way to know that is to try it for yourself. Remember I am not making you do a thing you make all the decisions.  What are you going to use to substitute your vice. 

Maybe its apiece of hard rock candy for that vice.  Maybe its the book of twelve steps if you need to call someone to make you feel bad.  The bottom line it is you who is still making all the decisions.  Some of us can only act in groups.

But you must realize that you are alone.  When you took that big step to get married it was just two people and the lord.  Now you are in the same position again and you must be strong.  Have you ever used a bandage filled with medicine to calm the pain.

You are now at the crossroads and you need to make a decision.  Change for the Better or the end of a long relationship.  What do you care about?  Lets look inside and ask again.  What do I want?  What are you willing to give!

Do you care about anything more than your vice?  

Changes For The Better

Have you ever thought that to yourself? What could you do to make a change for the better in your life. What vices do you have that are holding you down in life and career?

Smoking Drinking Cussing Cheating Lying Living someone elses life
Gambling Do not take Action Start but never finish They go on and on

But today lets do something for ourselves and that means me included. My vice is being overweight and it is so very hard to do everything the right way. Do I follow a weight loss program. Do I follow an exercise program. Do I eat better and watch the things I eat.

You can put your vice in where mine is just replace everything I say and do with the vice in your life that is holding you back in life. The thing is we are trying to punish ourselves, we need a way to solve a problem.

Lets start off slowly and work our way into a final goal that will be satisfactory for us all. I am going to have to take something away that is the problem cause of my weight problem. Are you all putting your vice in place of mine.

LETS MEET OUR GOAL

1. I must eat three to five meals per day. 2. I must regulate the amount of calories I intake.
3. I must drink at least 5 to 8 glasses of water per day. I must exercise for 15 minutes a day.

Whatever your vice is you definitely will fit into the regimen that I have outlined.

Your saying this guy is crazy how an I going to be able to fulfill all of these requirements.
This is not something that you can do overnight but if you follow each and every step that I will guide you through you will have a change for the better. All the things that you do everyone will notice and praise you for them.

Each and every step to this replacement formula is something that I have done to make my life change for the better.

The first week lets think of things to substitute our vice. What could you do with the time you normally use for this vice. Our what could you buy? How much could you save? If you made a change for the better!

One huge substitute for a lot of things is candy. (hard, soft, chocolate, flavored and all sugar free)
Does it matter how you think all these things out? NO IT REALLY DOES NOT MATTER

When we focus we form rules and ideas in our heads only the way that we understand. So the reason the solution has not worked for you up to this point. Is because you are trying to accomplish these problems using other peoples rules and thoughts right.

It that how you got to the place you are right now. I guess we could all say that someone else is to blame for the way our life has gone but it would be a lie.

If you think this is something you would be interested in let me know. I am going to leave a place here for you to contact me.